Thursday, March 5, 2015

How Not To Feel Your Age


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It's an open secret that as we age, we don't really feel different inside than we did when we were young. We still have our hopes, dreams, and fears, modified by time but still present.

This has undeniably been true for me as I am now just two months away from turning 60. When I was young, 60 seemed impossibly old, the end of all good things. I don't feel that way anymore. I am well aware that if we measure by seasons, I am in the autumn of my life. But, I'm Not Dead Yet.

Here are some of the ways I "don't feel my age." Over-arching all is a belief in staying hopeful, positive, and grateful. You may have some of your own to add to the list; please share.
  • Hang out with people of all ages. I am close to my sister (in her 40's) and her two teen daughters. I get asked for advice on dating!
  • Shun stereotypes. There's nothing more aging than talking like this: "Kids today . . . "
  • Listen to new music. I try a new band every day via Spotify. Well, new-to-me anyway. The 1990's count (hello, Arc Angels). It's so tempting to keep going back to Neil Young.
  • Get excited. Get really worked up about . . . whatever energizes you. I'm a political junkie, so I get passionate about women's rights. There are mostly younger-than-me women in the movement but we share a philosophy. It could be something completely non-political too, like rescuing kittens, or learning to cook vegan. Get gung-ho.
So many kitties to love. Source.
  • Don't be critical. Pause before the negativity comes out. There's a stereotype of an old person who is disapproving of everything, fearful, negative, and rigid. I won't be her.
  • Sing. I'm taking classical singing lessons, but I've always enjoyed singing. It changes my mood, it makes me feel alive.
Gaga and me - on a stage together soon.
  • Wear your hair long, if you like. I'm trying to get back to shoulder length, wild and fuzzy.
  • Wear your lipstick bright, if you like. I love to see a silver-haired (long or short) woman with red lipstick. It looks like she's earned it, somehow.
Photographer and model Sigrid Rothe

I'd love to hear your thoughts about what age you feel. Today I'm about 32, but minus the career stress  ツ.

Stay fabulous,


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Tuesday, March 3, 2015

What I Wore: Secret Agent Woman Is Secret

The mysterious woman in black, c'est moi. Black (faux) leather (thrifted, similar) does that to a person - makes us look more secretive and a little dangerous. A hat further obscures my identity. They'll recognize me at the Beachside Cafe by my fuzzy hair pieces only.

The sole spot of color today is my silk scarf from Zara (similar). My Cydwoq booties (sim) add some interest too, but I flubbed the hems of my black jean leggings (sim). In the boots, or out of the boots, there is no in-between. 

Sloppy hems aside, I think I look pretty fierce today. They've given me a number and taken 'way my name.

Are you a fan of black leather?
Stay fabulous,

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Sunday, March 1, 2015

Older Women: Represent With Your Selfies!

Here's a good Sunday read from the Guardian, "Why Older Women Should Become The New Selfie Generation." The author, Helen Walmsley-Johnson, thinks we women of a certain age should lead the way on visual media -- since we've been (largely) ignored by main stream advertisers. She writes:

"It’s satisfying and uplifting to learn that 71% of women aged 50-64 are entirely happy with the way they look. That’s a whole 8% higher than the figure for women aged 18-34. But which of these two groups is the one you see posting the ubiquitous “selfie” all over the place?"   

"Perhaps we should lead by example and show that growing older is a wonderful, liberating opportunity for reinvention, to let go of some things while embracing others."

Here's Ms. Walmsley-Johnson's makeup free selfie:



And here's mine (after coffee, natch):



This is what we look like, and we're fine.

Have a wonderful Sunday, and stay fabulous,


What to wear today, for grocery shopping and Coaster's Pub (Fifty shades of beer!):

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Friday, February 27, 2015

Sister Act Project: Style Is Ageless

Happy day - I've been invited to join February's Sister Act Project, created by Sheela Goh of the blog Sheela Writes. She's committed to the concept that style is ageless. For the Sister Act, Sheela invites bloggers from their teens to their, ahem, retirement years, to style a themed outfit. February's theme is "Sequins and Sneakers." 

Quoting Sheela, her goal with the Sister Act Project is:

" . . . to show the world that style isn’t an age-defining phase, it’s a lifelong adventure. Personally, I’ve never subscribed to the adage of age-appropriate clothing but rather, occasion-appropriate clothing that’s comfortable and fits well, all of which have absolutely nothing to do with how many times we’ve watched the sun come up and go down."

Here are the women of Sister Act/February, in their Sequins and Sneakers, of all ages and looking fabulous:

Carly (in her thirties) of ThirtySomething Fashion is casual and cool.
Jacket c/o Rehab, Sequin Top Elizabeth and James, Jeans Old Navy, Leopard Sneakers c/o C.Wonder


Adorable Eve of The World According To Eve (in her teens) goes all-out sparkly.
Sequin Sweater - don't remember  Sneakers - Pastry Shoes
Jeans and Necklace - Forever 21  Bangles - Dream Out Loud by Selena Gomez Kmart Collection
The creator of the Sister Act Project, Sheela (in her forties) of Sheela Writes. Love her sparkles.
Sequin Shift Dress - Diane von Furstenberg Silver Leather Sneakers - Millau LF
Sunnies - Chanel Rings - gifts from Eve, from Karen London, from House of Harlow Spiked Cuff - Etsy

Lydie (in her twenties) of Art Becomes You is fabulous in hot pink sneakers and lipstick.
Skirt - Mango  Top - Mango  Trainers - Nike Air Thea Pink
Sequin purse - Marks and Spencer

I'm representing the Formidable Fifties, in a sequined Calvin Klein sweater, thrifted skirt and belt, and
Calvin Klein oxfords (I don't have any sneakers except for working out!)

How would you put together sequins and sneakers?
Stay fabulous,


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Wednesday, February 25, 2015

What To Wear To Singing Lessons, And OCD

I love my singing lessons. I love the breathing, stretching, even the scales and lip trills. I struggle with my perfectionism and impatience, however. I want to be real good, real fast. That just doesn't happen, and especially not at age 59. I'm doing this for fun and the sheer joy of learning, not for an upcoming gig at Carnegie Hall. (But why don't I sound like Ella Fitzgerald yet?) Comparison is the thief of joy.

What to wear to voice lessons: I like to dress up a bit; it gives me better posture.  A full skirt and soft sweater are perfect. I ride my bike to the church where my teacher works, so I need a jacket of some sort, like this fabulous faux fur vest. Flat shoes are best for biking, and a cross-body bag.


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Someone told me tea is good for warming up the vocal cords. My teacher is so cool, he even recommends a small wine at lunch before lessons, to relax. Is that welcome advice or what?

My first song to learn is this sensuous classic by Cole Porter. I bow to the incomparable Ella:




Stay fabulous,

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Sunday, February 22, 2015

Visible Monday # 149: My Coat Of Many Colors

Welcome to Visible Monday #149! If you want to participate, it's so easy: just go to the bottom of this post for the how-to. Please be kind and leave a link to Not Dead Yet Style in your post.

Neutrals again today, but covered with the most colorful coat in my closet. I'm wearing a thrifted multi-media tee (similar) over my beloved Old Navy tulle skirt (sim). A silver leaf pendant and stone bracelet (sim) add some twinkle. And my brag-about Donald J. Pliner boots (NYC thrift shop, $20, OK shut up now Patti).

The coat is by Trina Turk, and a splurge for me at the second-hand shop Twice. I think I paid about $60, and I don't regret it a bit. It adds charm to my mostly black, gray and navy wardrobe.

Red lipstick also adds a buzz to a neutral closet.

Great coat for any day's adventures, yeah?

Now, show us what you're wearing, Visible Women!!

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  1. Whoever wants to can join in! Just compose a post that includes any outfit, accessory, piece of jewelry, hairstyle, cosmetic or other adornment that makes you feel more confident, alive and visible that day.
  2. Include a link to Not Dead Yet Style somewhere in your post. Please leave a comment, too, so we know you had a good time.
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Saturday, February 21, 2015

Just A Visible Monday Reminder

 Just a reminder - to have a wonderful day, and to come by for Visible Monday tomorrow evening.

I'm just big-boned.

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