Friday, December 19, 2014

The Confidence Of Age

Growing older is a trade-off, as are most things in life. In youth, we have socially-defined beauty and high energy. It's part of the evolutionary plan, and it works to help us attract mates and reproduce ourselves.

In mid-life and later we look different from our young selves, not as stereotypically beautiful. We're no longer the target for the newest fashion. Things are slowly changing, as advertisers understand the consumer power of the mid-life woman. We're now seeing ad campaigns with spokespeople like this:

Charlotte Rampling is the new face of NARS Cosmetics.
And this:

Jessica Lange is fronting for Marc Jacobs.

All for the good. We can't deny we're changing though. Even the priciest plastic surgery won't take away the morning stiffness, or need for reading glasses, or sore feet. We're also changing in positive ways, ways that are becoming more real to me now that age 60 is just a few months away.

Here are some of the trade-offs for me and my 50+ year-old friends:
  • We are much more relaxed. "What's the worst that could happen?" has probably already been lived through, or won't be repeated. Heinous hurricane season of 2004 - I'm talking about you.
  • We've given away some of our perfectionism. I really truly cannot leave the house without making the bed, still, but I can make it loosely ☺.  I can skip eye make-up and feel fine with lipgloss and blush. I don't balance my checkbook to the penny; I round up.
  • We know stuff. My teenage nieces are discovering the mystery of boys. Boys, I know all about them. Men too.
  • We major in the majors. Broken dishes, leaky faucets, the rogue pimple, a bad meal at a restaurant -- we use our humor to cope and keep on going.
  • We know our limits (I won't be a ballerina or surgeon) but keep pushing for more too (I'm taking singing lessons in the new year).
  • We aren't easily intimidated, by bankers, doctors, bosses, decorators, or boyfriends. Even a letter from the IRS doesn't scare me anymore; I've gotten those before and lived through.

Cheers to us, a confident, street-smart, style savvy, and unruffled group. Cheers to you!

Stay fabulous,


Here's some love for Marc Jacobs and NARS:


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Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Eureka! The Faux Fur Vest Found Me!

I've been looking for a faux-fur vest for a couple of months. Timing! The nice people at Covered Perfectly recently offered me a sample of their line, to model and to keep. Having recently seen a very cool vest featured by Une Femme D'Un Certain Age, I requested a similar, in leopard print (no actual leopards were harmed).

Covered Perfectly was launched in 2013 to provide clothing especially for the over-40 woman. All their designs provide flattering coverage and are soft as feathers. They're made in the U.S., too. Go give these tops and jackets a look, and you can take 20% off your order with the Promotion Code NDYS at checkout.

My new Covered Perfectly faux-fur vest, denim skinnies, and Doc Marten boots (similar).
I added a contrasting belt because, zebra.

My vest has pockets and a hood - and it's the perfect weight for our cool winters.

Here's another top I really like, from the Covered Perfectly site:

Scoop-neck striped top, very cute with either jeans or a midi skirt.

Stay furry and fabulous,


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Sunday, December 14, 2014

Visible Monday #145: Gray Lady

Welcome to Visible Monday #145! If you want to participate, it's so easy: just go to the bottom of this post for the how-to. Please be kind and leave a link to Not Dead Yet Style in your post.

A simple gray dress never lets you down. This knit one (similar) was thrifted in NYC; the label is Uniqlo. I can wear it dressed up for the office like this, or with leggings and my denim jacket.

I really love the vintage pearl and tasseled necklace, from Molly Mutt.
More jewelry: thrifted multi-metal bracelet (similar) and Wendy Brandes "G" ring.

You know I'm talking to a kitteh. No answer.

Now, show us what you're wearing, Visible Women!!


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  2. Include a link to Not Dead Yet Style somewhere in your post. Please leave a comment, too, so we know you had a good time.
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Saturday, December 13, 2014

 Just a reminder - to have a wonderful day, and to come by for Visible Monday tomorrow evening.

You'll be there, right??


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Thursday, December 11, 2014

How To Be Super Refined, Or Super Lazy . . .

Tell me you've done this: I wore the exact outfit two days in a row last week, and no one (not even, or especially, my husband) noticed. It was just my stretchy black skinnies and an oversized vee-neck sweater, and my new oxfords.

Also, the silk haori I found at the NYC Vintage Show.

I'm in the mood to wear something like this every day. Skinny stretchy bottoms, knit top, and mannish shoes or booties. Some great jewelry - like my vintage bracelet from Bella's shop, or a pendant. A velvet or denim jacket if it's cool. Red lipstick and fuzzy hair. That's me right now, and I'm enjoying it. Next month, who knows? Gypsy skirts and ballet slippers . . . .

Here's all I need:
I could decribe my recent style as finely curated, or super lazy.
What are you dressing in these days?

Stay fabulous,

 
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Tuesday, December 9, 2014

I Am A Badass Blogger, With The Shirt To Prove It

My friend (and my shopping enabler) Suzanne Carillo turned me on to this cool tee. Who could resist? You can get yours here.

I'm not really a badass; I'm a pussycat. Patti Smith is a badass. Blondie is a badass. Lady Gaga is a complete badass, and sings like a boss with Tony Bennett.






For me, it's just a fun role, with my denim skinnies, tough oxfords and, uh, ladylike jewelry.

The truth is in the tee, right?

I love the mix of demure Trina Turk jacket (kind of similar) and bad-girl tee.

Stay fabulous,

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Sunday, December 7, 2014

Things That Are No More . . . A Walk Down Memory Lane

I love this Facebook page, although I think it's no longer being updated. Things That Are No More -- memories for us baby boomers. Remember Yardley lipstick, Dippity-Do hair gel (with the pink hair tape to hold down your bangs), garter belts, eight-tracks, boom boxes, Sun-in spray . . . all gone forever or morphed to something completely new.

Here are a few jolly remembrances of things past, from the site:

It looks like this table is gigantic, or the people are very tiny, right?

If you're over 50, you had these for sure - adapters for your 45's so you could
play them on the big hi-fi.

At Grandma's house.

Vintage beauty. I used to set my hair on juice cans.

What vintage classics are you nostalgic for?

Stay fabulous,

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Visible Monday is on its "off" week this week, so we can recharge, refresh, and hope for some boots weather. ☺ We'll be back on Monday, December 15th (actually, the Sunday evening before)!